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Good Friendship

Wednesday, July 6th, 2011


Note: The following quotes are from the handout that inspired the awesome discussion we had during our April 9th gathering on “Good Friendship, Wise Communication.”

This post is dedicated to S.L. and H.L., two courageous members of the YWP who will be temporarily ordaining as novice monks this weekend. We are happy for and proud of them and wish them all the best on their mission!


In the suttas, the direct teachings of the Buddha and his disciples recorded in the ancient scriptural texts, we can see that the Buddha placed great importance on friendship. Few suttas said it more simply and clearly than this:

“With regard to external factors, I don’t see any other single factor like noble friendship as doing so much.”  (Itivuttaka: 1.17)

The Buddhist path is a gradual one and having good friendship is the best way to make sure we help keep each other walking on the path.

In addition to the above quote, the Buddha had also given many other discourses on friendship. In the Mitta Sutta, the discourse on friendship, the Buddha stated the “gold standard” of what constitute a good friend:

“A friend endowed with seven qualities is worth associating with. Which seven? (1) He gives what is hard to give. (2) He does what is hard to do. (3) He endures what is hard to endure. (4) He reveals his secrets to you. (5) He keeps your secrets. (6) When misfortunes strike, he doesn’t abandon you. (7) When you’re down and out, he doesn’t look down on you. A friend endowed with these seven qualities is worth associating with.” (Mitta Sutta: AN 7.35)

Another very famous sutta that focuses primarily on lay Buddhists provides ways we should behave when interacting with our friends:

“There are five ways in which a person should treat his friends and companions: (1) by gifts, (2) by kind speech, (3) by being helpful and looking after their welfare, (4) by treating them like himself, (5) by sincerity and keeping his word.”

There are five ways in which friends and companions thus treated by a person will reciprocate: (1) they look after him when he is careless, (2) they look after his property when he is careless, (3) they become a refuge when he is in danger, (4) they do not desert him when he is in trouble, (5) they show consideration and concern for his family.”(Sigalovada Sutta: DN 31)

In yet another sutta, the Buddha laid down “four grounds for the bonds of friendship”:

“There are these four grounds for the bonds of friendship. Which four? Generosity, kind words, beneficial help, and consistency. These are the four grounds for the bonds of friendship.” (Sangaha Sutta: AN 4.32)


Source: based on friendship post from “Handful of Leaves” blog:

“Full Effort is Full Victory”

Monday, May 16th, 2011

“When he was in South Africa, Gandhi sometimes would walk fifty miles a day and sleep only a few hours a night. Even into his seventies he wrote hundreds of letters every week; when his right hand got tired, he learned to write with his left. Once, while he was writing a letter, the lantern failed[.] Gandhi, aware of how much his reply meant to those who had written him, went outside and finished his correspondence by moonlight. That kind of drive gives a glimpse of the wellspring of vitality he tapped every day.

Late in Gandhi’s life a Western journalist asked, ‘Mr. Gandhi, you’ve been working fifteen hours a day for fifty years. Don’t you ever feel like taking a few weeks off and going for a vacation?’ Gandhi laughed and said, ‘Why? I am always on vacation.’

‘Full effort is full victory,’ said Gandhi. You need not be troubled if you have made mistakes, or if your ideal has slipped away. Just continue to give your best. If you fall, pick yourself up and march on. If you cannot run, walk. If you cannot walk, crawl. Nothing in life is more joyful or more thrilling. The effort alone brings a continuing wave of joy in which every personal problem, every suffering and humiliation, is forgotten.”
~by Eknath Eswaran

After reading this excerpt, I felt inspired to first, find out more about Gandhi, and second, to dedicate myself fully. I didn’t know very much about Gandhi the world figure or Gandhi the human being; I just knew that he was a “great man” with great quotes.

Now that I’ve read this short tidbit, I want to explore the wealth of knowledge that a life lived so humbly and fully generated. Hopefully I can begin to understand how Gandhi was always “vacation.” I would like to learn how to pick myself up after I’ve fallen and continue along on my journey, because it is so easy to dwell on the failure than to focus on the solution.

It is also worth mentioning that there are many ways to learn and acquire knowledge. One way is to read about other people’s experiences: it doesn’t always have to be long-drawn theories or in-depth lectures. Experience tends to give its author wisdom.

To read full excerpt, visit


More Wisdom Quotes

Thursday, May 12th, 2011

A fool flatters himself, a wise man flatters the fool.
-Robert Bulwer-Lytton

By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest.

Don’t taunt the alligator until after you’ve crossed the creek.
-Dan Rather

A wise man can see more from the bottom of a well than a fool can from a mountaintop.
-Author Unknown

You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger.
-The Buddha



Wednesday, May 4th, 2011

Memorizing a shuffled deck of cards in less then two minutes or running a 100 meter in 9.58 seconds. These seemingly impossible task have been done before.

Many, including myself, have decided stand on the sidelines and watch people accomplish difficult tasks or even simply ones, like trying new things, because of the belief that one cannot do something or failed at it once. However, creating negative beliefs and fears of failing are holding us back from achieving great possibilities.

“Our limitations and success will be based, most often, on your own expectations for ourselves. What the mind dwells upon, the body acts upon. ” -Denis Waitley

Do not hold yourself back; break down those mental barriers and achieve. If you still did not succeed, you still succeeded in finding a way that did not work. :]



Tuesday, May 3rd, 2011

There is a saying that goes

“If you have a difficult choice to make, flip a coin. If you decide to make it two out of three, you want the other one.”

It is one of my favorite quotes, not because I have lots of hard decisions to make, but because it implied that the answer was always somehow lying in us.

Sometimes what is right and what is best for us don’t seem to align, but I believe that most of the time, we already know what we are looking for. Our fears and delusions might create doubt and confusion, but if we can get through those, be it from a deep breath, or a longer meditation, we can see the difficulty under a new light, and in a much simpler way.

Next time you have a difficult choice to make, try to get away from the deep and hard reasoning, and try to find that clear peace of mind. You might not even need it, since you already have the answer!


- T


Anger Relief

Wednesday, April 6th, 2011

“Don’t get mad, get glad.”

That phrase you might know from the Glad bag commercial. I agree with that 100%. That saying is a true-life expression. If you’re living in anger, let it go and be happy.

As the quote says:

“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who is burned.” -The Buddha

Holding on to anger makes your mental state disintegrate. Anger causes stress and stress is very deadly at a certain point. Think of it this way, stress is a battlefield created in your mind.

So next time you get angry let go and feel the loving feeling inside.

Don’t get mad, get glad.



Inspirational Quotes

Thursday, March 31st, 2011

“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.”
-Oscar Wilde

I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
-Thomas Alva Edison

“Never tell me the sky’s the limit when there are footprints on the moon.”
-Author Unknown

“Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character.
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.”
-Frank Outlaw

“The dictionary is the only place that success comes before work.”
-Vince Lombardi

“One who walks in another’s tracks leaves no footprints.”


What You’re Missing By Not Giving

Tuesday, March 29th, 2011

There is a French saying that goes something like this:

“One who does not give does not know what she or he is losing.”

It took me a while to agree with this. The more you give the more you receive. How is that possible ? What can you give ? Well, the truth is that if you expect something in return it is never going to work. When you give it has to be selfless. Your actions should express your desire to be there for others, not yourself. Eventually you will see the good in your actions. Obviously we like to give and share with the people we love, our family and our friends. But how about giving to someone you dislike, someone who was mean to you or even a stranger ? Loving-kindness has no boundaries. This is what the Young Wisdom Project is trying to promote through its kindness missions. Giving a flower, a smile and a little bit of your time to people you don’t know is a different yet very rewarding experience.

You should give it a try. You have nothing to lose :) .

~by Chris

Live Now

Monday, March 21st, 2011

“Don’t let a Monday ruin your Sunday.”

I’ve been seeing this quote float around on the web for quite sometime now. Unfortunately, I do not know who the author is, but whoever he/she is, has provided us with an interesting way of saying, “carpe diem” (seize the day). To paraphrase the quote; do not let the thought of the future ruin the present moment. If we linger on thoughts of the future, good or bad, we cannot truly experience the present. This is one of the key teachings in Buddhism. The teachings describe the importance of the present moment. The only forces affecting one, are forces that exist now. The awareness of that, is key to true happiness. We must understand that the past is already decided, and the future is always uncertain. The only thing we have control of is our present actions. Without this, we cannot truly live.



Wisdom Quotes

Wednesday, February 23rd, 2011

~by Hubert aka Muninda